Three part course
The 9 PLEASURES of Sex After Baby
How to support Postpartum Sexuality, Desire & Intimacy
With Debra Pascali-Bonaro
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Debra is a childbirth educator, birth and postpartum doula trainer , international speaker, author and filmmaker (she directed the award-winning documentary “Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret”).
In this course, Debra will convey means for you to:
In this course, Debra will convey means for you to:
- Recognise how cultural beliefs, birth experiences, identity, and relationship changes shape postpartum sexuality
- Initiate sensitive conversations about sexuality without shame
- Understand the influence of body image, hormones, stress, and the nervous system on desire and arousal
- Explain why sensuality, emotional connection, and everyday pleasure matter
- Introduce practical, consent-centered approaches to communication, connection, and intimacy
- Identify concerns that may benefit from referral to appropriately qualified healthcare or sexual health professionals
- Integrate the 9 PLEASURES framework into your professional practice
COURSE CONTENT
Module One
Why Post-Birth Sexuality Challenges Are So Common—and So Unspoken
Monday, 7 December 2026 at 19h - 20h UK time
Before desire can awaken, parents often need space to reconnect with themselves and make sense of the enormous transformation of becoming a parent.
In this module, we will explore why changes in sexuality and intimacy after birth are so common, yet so rarely discussed in perinatal care.
You will learn how cultural silence, personal beliefs and lifelong conditioning shape a couple’s experience of post-birth sexuality; how unprocessed birth stories can quietly block desire and intimacy; and how attitudes toward sexuality are passed down through generations
Debra will discuss how the topic of sexuality can be raised without embarrassment and shame so that women and couples can step out of the silence and discover the power of pleasure and connection.
In this module, we will explore why changes in sexuality and intimacy after birth are so common, yet so rarely discussed in perinatal care.
You will learn how cultural silence, personal beliefs and lifelong conditioning shape a couple’s experience of post-birth sexuality; how unprocessed birth stories can quietly block desire and intimacy; and how attitudes toward sexuality are passed down through generations
Debra will discuss how the topic of sexuality can be raised without embarrassment and shame so that women and couples can step out of the silence and discover the power of pleasure and connection.
Module Two
Understanding Desire, Body Image & the Science of Pleasure
Monday, 14 December 2026 at 19h - 20h UK time
Module Two examines what healthy sexuality actually is and what rebuilds desire after birth — and it is rarely advice about sex. You will learn :
You will also gain an understanding of the physiology we are rarely taught: how the anatomy of pleasure, arousal and orgasm actually work, the role of safety and privacy, and the vast range of ‘normal’.
Debra will provide examples of normalising langage as well as practical suggestions that actually work.
- How body image, the senses, movement and daily experience open the pathway to arousal
- Why "sex begins between your ears"
- How communication is the hinge of the postpartum relationship
- How desire follows feeling rather than willpower
You will also gain an understanding of the physiology we are rarely taught: how the anatomy of pleasure, arousal and orgasm actually work, the role of safety and privacy, and the vast range of ‘normal’.
Debra will provide examples of normalising langage as well as practical suggestions that actually work.
Module Three
From Recovery to Power: Creating New Possibilities for Intimacy
Monday, 21 December 2026 at 19h - 20h UK time
Postpartum sexuality is an opportunity to create deeper connection, greater self-awareness, and a more fulfilling relationship with pleasure.
In this final module, we'll explore how professionals can help parents move beyond recovery-focused conversations toward a broader understanding of sexual well-being.
Debra will cover a few core ingredients for the path to empowering sexuality :
Discover how daily rituals, honest communication, curiosity, and play can nurture intimacy. Explore the role of oxytocin, the brain and nervous system, erogenous body mapping, and the many pathways to arousal and pleasure.
And finally, we will see why reclaiming intimacy and sexuality influences parenting as it models connection and love for the next generation.
In this final module, we'll explore how professionals can help parents move beyond recovery-focused conversations toward a broader understanding of sexual well-being.
Debra will cover a few core ingredients for the path to empowering sexuality :
- The distinction between sensuality and sexuality
- Creating a pleasure practice
- Oxytocin and erogenous body mapping
- The power of the mind
Discover how daily rituals, honest communication, curiosity, and play can nurture intimacy. Explore the role of oxytocin, the brain and nervous system, erogenous body mapping, and the many pathways to arousal and pleasure.
And finally, we will see why reclaiming intimacy and sexuality influences parenting as it models connection and love for the next generation.
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Entry/intermediate level
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Power Point Presentations
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Q and A with presenter
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Life time access to recordings
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Certificate of Attendance on request
who can this benefit
- practitioners working with pregnant and new mums
- new parents
- anyone interested in postpartum sexuality
learning outcomes
- Learn why changes in desire, sexuality, and intimacy are common after birth.
- Recognise how cultural beliefs, birth experiences, identity, and relationship changes shape postpartum sexuality.
- Understand the influence of body image, hormones, stress, and the nervous system on desire and arousal.
- Learn about practical, consent-centered approaches to communication, connection, and intimacy.
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